things that are hurtful:
- being upset that you have to, almost every day, put away someone else's open containers of refrigerated food that they left out, sometimes multiple times a day. you also occasionally forget to put things away, so it is unfair for you to be at all critical
things that are not hurtful:
- being treated like you never do something that you actually do most of the time, but which is only ever noticed when you don't do it 🙃