I know I'm spamposting tonight, but I really want to emphasize just how freeing (and also frustrating) this phrase can be. It's helpful when I look at situations where I feel a lot of guilt and shame, like how I'm overdue on a lot of commissions. I can feel like I'm doing the best my mental health and life situation will allow me, but it can also be true that a client is frustrated with the delay. Both can be true.
It's also great for very complicated relationships. Someone can do shitty things that hurt you, but also can still be, in general, a good person.
It feels very milquetoasty and apologetic, but I think it embraces the grey and complicated life we all live. My dad is an abusive shitlord for sure, but he also was abused himself. I can make actions to protect myself and sever our relationship, but also he can be a person that needs support and care.
Remember: both can be true
