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A real "we've got a nephew" of graphic design and illustration, mental illness held at bay by a very nice vegetable garden and cats.

Lapsed printmaker, you should ask me about it and I'll be very weird


Portfolio:
glitchprismatic.com
BlueSky
sanguinarynovel.bsky.social
Ko-Fi
ko-fi.com/sanguinarynovel

I know I'm spamposting tonight, but I really want to emphasize just how freeing (and also frustrating) this phrase can be. It's helpful when I look at situations where I feel a lot of guilt and shame, like how I'm overdue on a lot of commissions. I can feel like I'm doing the best my mental health and life situation will allow me, but it can also be true that a client is frustrated with the delay. Both can be true.

It's also great for very complicated relationships. Someone can do shitty things that hurt you, but also can still be, in general, a good person.

It feels very milquetoasty and apologetic, but I think it embraces the grey and complicated life we all live. My dad is an abusive shitlord for sure, but he also was abused himself. I can make actions to protect myself and sever our relationship, but also he can be a person that needs support and care.

Remember: both can be true


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in reply to @SanguinaryNovel's post:

Both can be true is /so important/ for all it seems like an oversimplification. I've been working really hard and doing all the right things for my mental health, but it doesn't mean I'm not going to feel shitty. My father can be simultaneously trying his best and I can also be disappointed that he can't offer what I want.

A huge one for me was how you can be sad about one thing but also maybe a nice thing happens and you're happy and that's okay and you can have multiple feelings at the same time and it doesn't mean you're doing one wrong? Fucking brains, dude.

Brains really suck, totally need to go in for a 2.0 rehaul with all of the bugs we keep finding.

"Both can be true" is an ironic oversimplification for, like you pointed out, oversimplifications. We all want things to be clear cut and simple, but life has to be all "complicated" or somesuch nonsense. It seems like such a bitter pill to take for things that really do hurt, like your dad, but it makes it a little easier to work through.

If only life was easy to work through, yeah? I see you Ingrid, and I know you're doing your best <3

You are too, dude! Your gardening stuff seems to have been a good step also plus you get tomatoes. Just really wish we could have opted out of having life on this ridiculous difficulty setting.