my shitty roommates have moved out!!
one of them was my partner's friend that i never got along with, but at least he mostly kept to himself - though that did include never doing his kitchen chore without prompting - and notably did not include saving his own money, as several times he asked me for small loans for emergency vet visits or car repairs that he never paid back. also the whole reason i let him stay at my house was so he could save up money to move cross-country, but in the year and a half that he lived with me entirely rent free, he didn't save anything until the last month. like i understand you have a shitty job and not a lot of resources, but maybe in that case you shouldn't have bought a pure breed show dog..?
the other one i was casually friends with, and my partner better friends with. until my partner and i started dating someone who this roommate had had a crush on, and it told my partner that it "didn't want to hear any details about the relationship and needed some space while it processed its jealousy". then it got mad that my partner hadn't updated it about the progression of the new relationship, and hadn't reached out to hang out. like. you ASKED for silence and space, it is on YOU to let us know the exceptions / when you're ready to hang out again?? but it was apparently seething about this for months and getting more and more mad that my partner wasn't reaching out to try and fix issues that it hadn't told my partner anything about. anyway, after it decided to move out but before i realized how much it now hated my partner, i lent it money to buy a car And 3k for moving costs. and it somehow accidentally misunderstood me into taking an extra 3.5k. and still, a month and a half later, had no money left for moving costs, somehow.
luckily the two of them still managed to scrape up enough money to pay first months rent and get the fuck out of my goddamn house on the agreed-upon date. i can't believe they both lived here for so long while apparently hating my partner and/or me. i can't believe i let them take such advantage of my generosity - in the end i was just enabling them, not helping them. i'd considered charging the first roommate a small amount of rent which i would secretly save up and eventually give back to him to help him pay for his move, but i was like no that's so condescending to forcibly save his money for him, but apparently i should've. the other roommate has very high medical costs so i understand why it couldn't save up on its own, but that doesn't explain how it wasted 6.5k in a month and a half, breaking every condition of my extremely generous loan.
but they're gone now, and i never have to worry about them again!! well, i have to worry about getting my loan repaid, but i can handle one specific monthly concern, that's so much better than feeling responsible for someone's overall success in life bc when shit goes poorly it's you they run to for help fixing it. like, i have an actual kid i signed up to do that for, i can't parent these grown ass adults as well.
and i have space now!! i have a big ol office in which to store supplies for my music class business, store and use my craft supplies, and set up a nice little space in which to focus on the business-running aspect of my jobs. and my partners have a room in which to store their instruments and craft supplies and such too, since three adults sharing one bedroom does not leave much space for items. and both rooms can double as guest rooms! for the last 3+ months my living room has been just packed full of shit that simply had no where else to get put, and for the last 8+ months my very social partner has hardly ever been able to invite anyone over. so it's so so nice to have this space, it's just as much of a stress-reliever as having the people gone.
