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shinmera
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Alright, phew

I'm finally finished with my comic! It's 17 pages, and since Cohost isn't great for reading many images at once, you can read it here:

Anyway, I'm thoroughly burnt out with comics now, so I'll be returning to my usual scheduled stuff soon.

I'd appreciate some comments on what you thought about the comic! I know this is a very personal work, so whether you connect with it or will vary wildly, but I'd still be interested in hearing your thoughts!


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in reply to @shinmera's post:

hey, thanks for sharing this. As someone who is demi and not ace, this comic hit me with some Feelings, especially with the specific situation you've shown as being so... raw? iunno, there's a lot I could say, but I do wish you the best in figuring out what limits work for you, and hopefully finding someone who understands and respects you 💙

Fellow ace here. This was a beautiful comic that captured a scenario that was all-too familiar to me. Sadly the person who pushed themselves on me was not so apologetic or willing to admit fault, but that's ancient history now.

I know it's a daunting prospect, but I sincerely hope you find someone who can make you happy and is understanding of your asexuality and boundaries.

Part of what made it really difficult for me to write and post this is that I knew all too well how unfortunately familiar this kind of situation was going to be to a lot of people. I'm really sorry that you had to go through something like that, and I hope you're in better circumstances these days.

And... thanks. I've been thinking about this more again recently and the outlook seems pretty bleak to me. I'm absolute trash at forming new connections, both online and off, and any attempt I've made to fix that over the years hasn't worked out. Getting older the chances I have only seem to decrease, as well.

Don't lose hope. I'm 38 and only this year found someone who is unbothered by my aversion to sex. It can happen in a blink, when you aren't even actively looking. It's never too late, and you're never too old to meet the right person and fall in love.

I was also on the verge of giving up completely. I am very familiar with how impossible it can feel to find a partner who doesn't consider lack of sex a deal breaker, but it's not. Don't close yourself off to the possibility.