i can't go to hell - i'm all out of vacation days. i watch space rocks and yell at computers for my day job. probably too old for any of this

 

i think i might be burned out on internet social. it's hard to keep doing it. it's hard to even maintain the amount of attention i'm already giving it

 

i am the cause of most of my own problems

 

furthermore, capitalism must be destroyed

 

birdsona: ?????

 

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yaodema
@yaodema

been seeing more people using the CW field for, uh. food. lately. and that feels familiar and not necessarily in the best way. a suggestion: just tag it #food. people who have issues seeing such talk will muffle the tag, if they know that's an option.

tag muffling is a setting option you can customize as you need to, and is pretty effective at preventing people from seeing things that they'd be disturbed by personally (or just don't want to deal with). all this, without making the assumption that a CW does that everyone might be bothered, and leaving them to disable hiding the CW on their own.

sharing recipes or good take-out finds is a normal thing. some people need to know in advance that they're about to encounter such a thing. both of these are fine, but CW-first is a pattern that existed in some spaces because tagging was either clunky or non-existent. it works way better here!

the same goes for other tags one might consider that aren't obviously "most people would need a warning for this even if they don't expect they do." just make the tags as easy to figure out as possible and folks will be okay.


SomeEgrets
@SomeEgrets

I'm generally in camp "use CWs for big things people commonly struggle with, and tags for niche topics that are common everyday things and a few people uncommonly have issues with"

But also it seems like every community I'm in has at least one person with some kind of issue with food one way or another.

Eating disorders etc etc seems to be really common so idk? Almost every discord I'm in, without exception, has an entirely separate channel for food specifically because of this.

Edit: I definitely don't think I necessarily have this whole thing figured out, though. I do, broadly, find the convention of "cw anything that anyone on the entire network might find uncomfortable" overbearing and deleterious to actually using the damn site for its intended purpose (you can't, for example, skim a timeline where everything is a click-through, so I will likely never follow more than a small number of people there because I already find social media overwhelming to keep up with)

It is true that tag muffling is effective and things like food are not in the category of "most people would find uncomfortable or disturbing or require a specific context for viewing" so as long as it's done consistently, it is likely safe?


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in reply to @yaodema's post:

yeah, one of many things I like about this place really. it's clear the folks running it care about us as more than just a number on a metric, which is probably a lot of why features like this exist!

We feel similarly. Our personal boundaries are to use tags for things that might make someone uncomfortable (food, eye contact) vs CWs for things that might make someone distressed (injury, common phobias). Obviously, some folks will be distressed by things we might find uncomfortable, but! Muffling work!!

Tag muting is GREAT! I love it.

I found another way to do CWs that is effective is using the "read mode" lines (ie ---). That way you can have a bit of the post where you provide some context and then the rest of the post hidden.

in reply to @SomeEgrets's post:

different environments, different UX, different solutions. there's not really a good way to "tag" a discord post, but there is here.

the way CWs appear to everyone (who hasn't specifically said "don't hide things with this CW") is the exact same way that a post appears to someone who's muffled one of its tags; the text at the top just refers to the muffled tags instead of to the CW. this strikes me as a better system in general, for the way this site and things with similar tagging systems work.

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