i hate the feeling of seeing a cool person making a cool thing online and IMMEDIATELY clocking them as transfem and then realizing they aren't like, super public about it and now i have to tell people that i'm excited for this thing and I trust it to some extent but i'm not going to say Why kfdljdkfsdf
this is a purely personal gripe and i will always respect people if i can but also kjfdlsajfdklsajfdsa
sometimes u do research to find out what happened to an old forum personality you used to know, find them online, realize they transitioned, and realize that this is both incredibly cool to you and also you can't explain why to anyone without outing them in a weird way
