Hi everyone who wants to call themself an ally to LGBTQIA or BIPOC or Disabled or Immigrant folks (and other marginalized identities that aren't rich white cishet men) --- that is not a word for you to claim for yourself.
To clarify: if you don't have the identity in question, that does not mean you can label yourself an ally of that identity you don't have.
That is a TITLE that WE give to YOU and ONLY IF you actually do ally things and stand by us.
If we talk to you, and you yell at us about our tone and how we shouldn't be pissing off our allies? That proves to us you aren't our ally. That's hostile and turns our ability to speak up at all into something for you can ignore/dismiss/veto based on tone. Stop it.
If you want to be an ally, then work with us and stand with us. Learn from us. Listen to us. Follow our lead.
Don't talk over us. Don't try to prove your credentials with how you vote, what you believe, whatever. That doesn't matter. Because in the end it isn't your credentials that will stop the horrorshow that's killing us.
It's your actions.
So act.