I generally am trying to stay out of online discourse because I am exhausted from life shit on so many levels right now but if I can offer one bit of unsolicited advice to basically everyone, it's to understand that when the topic is something that isn't in your lane - if you're white and the topic is racism, if you're cishet and the topic is queerness, if you're abled and the topic is disability - one of the most important and valuable things you can do in these situations, especially when you find yourself upset or uncomfortable, is to suppress your desire to react, and to just remain silent and listen.
Don't take this as hostile advice. I mean this in a positive sense. You will begin to understand so much more if you just try to hear other people out, even when your first reaction is to be upset. Let silence shield you until you have the time to process it and come out the other side both more informed and less immediately emotional. I promise you'll find it makes things better for everyone. You may find yourself coming completely around on things after introspecting on them for awhile, once the immediate "someone's mad at me!!!" response fades. Maybe that "awhile" is multiple months. Years? That's okay too. Emotional is the worst time to be Posting, especially on sensitive topics. Maybe talk to your friends in private about it instead.
Maybe you'll decide to say something different afterward. Maybe you'll decide your opinion wasn't needed after all. That's not a bad thing. The world is full of takes; a few questionable ones, made in the heat of the moment, won't be missed.
Anyway, just consider it IMO.
