one thing i've seen folks struggle with is the ratio of effort to result
folks will say, "i put a lot of effort into making friends" or "drawing this" or "finding a job" and are dissatisfied that their effort hasn't been rewarded
and, y'know, to some extent that's a roulette! sometimes you just happen to finish a new piece of art as Elon decided to set Twitter on fire, and no one can see it even on other sites through all the smoke
sometimes, it's less identifiable; you happen to post it on the same day as your usual most devoted followers are dealing with emergencies, visiting family, having a party, sleeping in, and taking a holy fast from social media for a day, and you have no way of knowing all that.
or you submitted three resumes, but one wasn't actually planning on hiring anybody, one already had their eventual new employee on his second interview and were keeping the posting up in case he washed out, and one just didn't see your resume through basic user error.
or the people you're trying to make friends with just aren't ready to meet you where you are--or, hell, they're not the right people for you.
that's the thing, you never can really know the hand you're dealt! you're playing against cards whose faces you'll never see. sometimes, you don't even see that there are cards.
but sometimes it's not impossible. it's simply that you're putting in 100% effort... and only 10% of it is going in the right direction. maybe you spent a whole week crafting your resume into the shiniest, most perfectest lauding of your own accomplishments the world has ever seen--but you're not actually qualified for the job you're applying for, and that energy would have been better-spent studying for a certification so you could get that job.
sometimes you spend days, or weeks, working on a piece, and wonder why it still has the flaws you're tired of seeing--but you didn't practice fixing those flaws, you only added sparkles and shading overtop of it. it's a fantastic drawing of a hand--but the thumb's still on the wrong side, because effort is not the same thing as improvement.
and hey, we're social animals. figuring out the thumb's on the wrong side might be something you'd never catch in a million years--you've been drawing them that way for too long, it's embedded in your head, even if you know something's off. that's why we've got a bunch of other people with thumbs to look at, to study, and to ask, "hey, i've been looking at this for ten days now and i just can't figure out what's wrong with it. can you put your finger on it?"
and i think that's beautiful. look, i know i'm some sort of commie/socialist/sharing-is-caring-and-we-should-all-be-forced-at-cuntpoint-to-do-it weirdo, but when it comes to life's challenges, working together is the only way to get better at 'em