literally just the other day I had to tell some fucker to either make some effort to get to know me or leave me alone if all they wanted to talk about was kink without actually carrying a conversation otherwise. it's fine. it's not ableist or whatever not to be a walking Social Needs Servicing Point™ to every dumb motherfucker who walks up to you with zero consideration for your needs in turn.
Shit’s a give and take! Like- people don’t seem to understand that the sort of tight, unconditional friendship you see with folks was earned through years of being there for one another, years of listening and sharing and, y’know, being supportive of one another!
Being horny doesn’t magically make that untrue! Drives me up the damn wall when people think they’re gonna be my friend not because we have anything meaningful in common, but because they share kinks. Like, no, you liking my art doesn’t make you a friend, random stranger, you have to provide something fulfilling to me as a person
So many of my favorite people don’t overlap with my kinks at all, or they do and we barely ever talk about that stuff- because our friendship is built on a better foundation than that
