So, Shyla is, obviously, polyamorous, and we're in a polyamorous relationship: she's married to me and dating Mobi. The three of us hang out most days, and are even considering moving in together.
Shyla's mother is not happy about this.
We're spitting on the fight for gay marriage; she's committing adultery; she's betraying her vows; she's throwing away over a decade of happy marriage; she's hurting me.
And, like, obviously that's all horseshit, but the one that keeps coming up the most is,
"You can't love two people."
You can't love two people.
Of all things, that's the one that she cannot grasp the most. And it strikes me as interesting because...
Well, because Shyla has a brother.
Shyla's mother has two children.
Does her love for one preclude the other? Is she not destined to favor one over the other? Is she incapable of having a fulfilling relationship with each of them? Is she not betraying her relationship with her eldest child by having borne and loved a second?
And is it not the same with parents? Everyone is born of two people, after all, and expected to love them both. (Naturally, this gets complicated for a great many of us, but the point still stands--we hardly judge people who love both of their parents! Or even their stepparents!)
Of course not! The heart is so capable of love, it would be silly to assume otherwise.
So why limit romantic relationships like that? If everyone gets along, if there is no strife between partners, why do people feel that cannot be legitimate?
Anyway. Food for thought!