As someone who's always felt a little out of place, it's incredibly important (in my mind at least) to accept your plurality regardless of circumstances.
I go onto a lot of sites/spaces focused on plurality and all of the stuff sounds completely outside of my experience. I just kinda showed up one day, and that's okay. It's incredibly easy for me to get lost in that and feel not valid because some systems have this deep understanding of themselves or where they came from with these awesome backgrounds and spiritual understandings - yet I don't. I'm not anything particularly cool (points at bio) but being that way it's so easy to lose touch.
The big emphasis - and what will make life so much easier - is the last part. "The right people won't care." My close friends know I'm plural and that I'm part of a system. All of them don't really care, honestly. Not in a bad way - but they look at me as me, and not as a reflection of my "host" or as something spiritual or anything like that. Some of my friends barely know how plurality works, but they love me for me.
The right people will care for you for who you are.
(I really hope this isn't seen as a knock on any systems, but I think it's important for those of us unsure or just plural to be kind and secure in who we are.)
I regularly feel like my plurality doesn't count because of various things i gaslight myself into thinking mean i'm faking it over. the one i always go back to is "i'm just borderline, i'm just naming my Splits" and like, maybe? so what?? does that make Lance any less a completely different dude than me who takes over and wants to be seen as a dude sometimes??? No it doesn't. my plurality may seem out of line with a lot of other people's descriptions of their experiences but it's still real enough to me. i still struggle with self acceptance. but my friends have all accepted us as a system, and that has made it easier for us to love ourselves.
