do not be sorry. they want you to ask so bad. you might as well say "you're welcome".
if you're afraid of asking a birder yourself, help out the community by using the Merlin app to either narrow it down with a questionnaire, or use Shazam For Birdsong in the app to identify it by it's call.
submitting birds to merlin helps the Cornell bird lab track migrations, territory, populations, and how climate change affects birds in your (and everyone's) area, AND it tells you what the bird is. you can think of it like adult Pokemon Go. iNaturalist is like this except less refined and for plants fungi and animimals
i use ebird to track sightings (also by cornell lab of ornithology), which is a little more hardcore because the app does not identify birds for you, requires you to provide individual counts, and reports unusual sightings to be reviewed by experts who may request evidence or thorough descriptions. it's arguably the most successful community science project of all time, it keeps a thorough record of your sighting history, and it generates range maps far more accurate than the ones in your field guide. by using it you're contributing to a massive global database that anyone can access.
however i keep merlin on my phone because it's Sound ID function is fucking magic and sometimes my phone is able to hear birds that my pathetic human ears could not. amazing bird finding tool.
