Plurality, even as a coping mechanism, has been a net good in my eyes, as it has given so many of my friends little guys in their head that tell them the nice things they deserve to hear, and I’m glad for that
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in reply to @feybeasts's post:
NGL it does sound kinda nice, but I struggle a little with how I've wound up in extremely plural spaces as someone whose brain is just... super damn singular. I have a bit of a "feels like I don't belong " complex about it with how many of my friends have turned out such and talk about it. The odd one out, y'know...
Yeah, I get that! It can feel weird, I’m sure- but the thing is, if ya friends are your friends, they wouldn’t dream of holding that against you, and I sure as heck know I don’t! Probably a given, but worth repeating as often as it helps- you belong, bud!
Thanks for that. tbh I've been struggling with it a little because one my previous closest friends had a Very Bad Time with her plurality and all the change and struggle it brought and my inability to help her because of how I simply couldn't relate eventually caused us to drift apart...
Like it came to the point where I was crying in my bed screaming out into my own head if anyone else was there because I just desperately wanted to understand and relate and help.
But it's just me, and I struggle with feeling like an interloper in a lot of spaces because of that now.
God I could see how that would hurt. It sucks feeling like you’re unprepared and unable to help with things a friend is struggling with- that burden shouldn’t have been on your shoulders though, all a friend can do in a place like that is try to be supportive, even if they don’t necessarily understand, and it sounds like you did your best to be. In my eyes, that’s a damn good friend.
You’re a good bean even if there’s one of you, Andi- and not in spite of that either. And I’m happy to say that!
mmm... yeah... thanks, i needed to hear that.
i'm honestly still coping a little because my spaces went from "one plural system i know" to "talk about plurality being 40% of my social media feed" in the space of like. a month. def left me feeling discombobulated and out of place.
thank you, though. genuinely. i struggle a lot with very deep seated feelings of self-doubt and feeling like an outsider or interloper. i'm... glad to just let some of this out tbh
Hey, I know what it's like to struggle with demons like that myself- and for what it's worth, I might be a marshmallow of a fox with another goblin kicking around in there, but we don't do cliques- you're always welcome and valued for who you are and what you do, not what flags you fly 💖
andi you are wonderful and a wonderful friend no matter what. we're so happy to know you and how you are, no matter how that ends up. you're great.
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