im noticing a lot of people who either migrated over from tumblr or started using cohost again because of tumblr, who are feeling frustrated by cohost's design choices. and i totally get it, there's nothing wrong with not vibing with the site. it's not really a site designed for everybody.
but it's also only in its second year of public release. back when I first made a Twitter account, i couldn't even tag somebody in a tweet. I was tweeting from my LG 550 flip phone via SMS. i couldn't even send DMs until 2013, and I'd already been on the site for a whiiiiile by that point.
That's not to be all "kids have it so easy" or "stop being disappointed about the site i like" or anything, or at least i hope im not coming across that way. i'm just offering perspective. the site's still building and improving.
If there's a feature you'd like to see, go to the support page and use the search function to see if your feature idea exists. if it doesn't, submit a request! Maybe the devs intentionally designed the site a particular way for a particular reason, but it's also possible they hadn't considered it or it's on their list of things to do.
it's also fine to just not like the site. Cohost doesn't do 'social media' like any other site. It's designed specifically to avoid the typical dopamine cycle you get from other sites, and i'll admit my own transition from Twitter and Tumblr onto Cohost wasn't smooth either. The withdrawal from the dopamine cycle was hard, but it was worth sticking through it for me. If Cohost doesn't really fit you though, then that's just the way it be. Maybe it builds into a site you eventually use often, maybe it doesn't. Only time will tell.
I just hope everybody gives Cohost an honest shot. It takes more time to feel good using the site specifically because it's designed to mitigate the dopamine cycles other sites use to hook you in quick and keep you there. it's fine if people don't like the site, i just hope it was given a chance and that the time spent on this site didn't flat out suck. and if it sucked, i hope there's a 'next time' where the experience is better.