Some gender reflections đź–¤
Recently I conversed with my friend—who identifies as agender—and through our conversation, I realized that my identifying as “non-binary” comes from feeling lots of gender all at once, and feeling like my gender exists on a 3D plane rather than a line between “male” and “female”.
Words like “gender neutral” and “androgynous” don’t describe how I feel at all, though they may describe other people’s experiences of gender. I feel the opposite of neutral! Sometimes people use “they/them” when they don’t know someone’s gender. That’s technically correct, but I always flinch a bit because my choice in adopting “they/them” pronouns for myself is intentional—it’s a pronoun that contains multitudes.
I consider myself hyperfeminine, but also 50% a dude, and 80% something else—a wonderful, mysterious experience.
