akhra

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wenchcoat system:
🍯 Akhra (or Melli to disambiguate), ratel.
🐲 Rhiannon, drangolin.
🦡 Lenestre, American badger.

unless tagged or otherwise obvious, assume 🍯🐲🦡 in chorus; even when that's not quite accurate, we will always be in consensus. address collectively as Akhra (she/her), or as wenchcoat (she/her or plural).

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Discord server ostensibly for the Twitch channel but with Cohost in hospice y'know what let's just link it here
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shapelessink
@shapelessink

You know, I'm sure that by someone's metrics I qualify as a detransitioner which is sort of weird to think about.

I have zero regrets, but like, I have definitely gone from being very insecure about myself, to experimenting with gender, and subsequently coming out the other side massively more secure in my masculinity and what that means to me - and I'm positive some (cis, incurious) people would see that from the outside and think "Oh he changed his mind".

Actually I'm sure the people that might think that are exclusively from the pool of people who when I came out, instantly assumed I was exclusively transfemme despite me being very upfront about being Enby. Looking at you, certain family members.


akhra
@akhra

this is good illumination on why I think we'd be better off eliminating the term "detransition" entirely. it frames harmless experimentation as a mistake. it's indelibly associated in the public mind with a body "permanently scarred" by "the wrong" hormones — simultaneously reinforcing stigmas around trans bodies, and usurping sympathy for them onto (assumed-)cis ones.

I'd love to see a real push to change the language to retransition, because it's really exactly that and the implications of "did it more than once!" are far better for everyone than "shouldn't have in the first place."


neckspike
@neckspike

It REALLY poisons the waters for people talking about their needs and experiences. I have met one person who did transition for an extended period and now sees it as a mistake and is dealing with the issues of that and she can barely talk about it bc she doesn't want anyone to use her experience as a cudgel against trans people and access to HRT.

That's the messy reality of being human. Sometimes we do make mistakes, even about big important things. Sometimes things seem like exactly what we want and then it turns out differently when you try it. It shouldn't be anywhere near the big deal society makes it, if you're wrong about your gender what's the big problem? Lots of people regret having kids and that's way worse.


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in reply to @shapelessink's post:

yeah, the linear transition narrative doesn't really. work for those of us who take nonstandard paths to different definitions. But you still went on a journey to find and become a new, different, more complete self.

and i think that's all that matters.