I know that subtle details tend to get lost in translation with lefty ideas but I've met multiple people who aren't assholes, but at some point in their lives have felt sad about being chronically single and then had an immediate negative conscience response of "that's incel shit, you're a bad person" because the only rubric left-wing spaces have given them for "a single person who's sad about it" is an incel
Like, obviously nobody is owed access to a certain person's body, harassment is not an appropriate response to emotional distress, etc. But someone like, say, an autistic person being infantilized and ostracized by their peers might come to the conclusion that their community does not believe they're romantically or sexually viable, and feel upset about that, for reasons entirely unrelated to entitlement
Idk, I've never personally seen a lefty take that's really acknowledged that romantic and sexual isolation can hurt and isn't inherently evil, outside of "cotton ceiling" talk that I'm not sure how to feel about, and that's going to lead to people crossing some wires
And I think when a movement is trying to be inclusive of people who are systemically excluded from society we have to have space for people to experience the base human instinct of emotional pain from exclusion
