Allikitti

I think the "no pup hoods/harnessess in public" crowd is really missing the point when they talk about consent and consideration for ppl around you tbh.

What gets considered kink gear vs vanilla fashion is decided by Majority Normie Opinion Vibes and not actual, measureable presumed trauma to...hypothetical bystander children? Presumed sex-repulsed asexuals (btw, always with the assumption that aces don't exist in kink)? Let me explain.

I think a lot of these furries against pup hoods don't realize that a lot of non-furs do actually percieve furry paraphinalia as inherently NSFW. I've met multiple people who have explicitly stated that they don't think fursuits should be worn at pride parades because it's "not appropriate". Some have told me that they "don't need to know" that I'm a furry if I casually mentioned going to a furcon or something that I truly thought was not a big deal.

Do we really need to ask people's consent to just wear something that other people don't like in a public place? Im not talking about engaging them in a kinky scene, or exposing underwear/genetalia. I'm talking about just...existing and walking around while accessorising differently.

I understand that it's hard to imagine how accessories like pup hoods (aka: fursuit heads/mascot masks made of neoprene instead of acrylic fur, therefore, scandal?) can be worn outside of a kinky context. When you are in furry, it just seems so obvious to make that distinction, but at the end of the day it really does just come down to...Vibes.

You can be like, "but that's clearly different, pup hoods are clearly NSFW gear, vs my fursuit, which is totally SFW!" but fundamentally: what is the reasoning besides the ol' conservative "common sense" defense? It's an accessory made of a different material and with presumed baggage from its history? Like...every piece of alt fashion ever?

Frankly, I've seen people in the fandom openly behaving innaproriatly in all-ages spaces. Examples include displaying horny art near a table with minors at a restauraunt, or babytalking loudly in littlespace at a meet where children are present. In none of these instances were the guilty parties wearing anything "non-standard".

So, I would ask: when it comes to boundaries, is it really edgy clothing choices that are the problem? Because banning that material does not actually seem to fix anything. Why not just let people wear what they want? Like what is the actual fear besides optics?