god how do i keep forgetting that the absolute best way to deal with "im bothered by something online" is to write your private little post for just yourself on a file that lives on your computer and never show it to anybody.
like. its fucking huge to be able to just honestly talk about your thoughts on something without having to worry about how youre coming across or whether a hypothetical reader will Get what you mean. you can actually work through things - sometimes you figure out how to better express your issues, sometimes you realize that being bothered by this wasnt actually a reasonable response to begin with, and sometimes you just feel a little catharsis from having gotten it off your chest
