The world is made worse by the insistence that there must always be some Ground Truth against which one compares their subjective experience.
"Am I REALLY trans or..."
There is no such thing.
"Am I REALLY plural or..."
There is no such thing.
"Am I REALLY a Good Person or..."
There is no such thing.
"Am I REALLY a..."
These are all artificially constructed categories. The labels don't matter. Does the framework help? That's what matters.