we carry generations worth of traumas perpetrated against our ancestors and ourselves and we don't center white fragility in our processing of that, and if yours is so activated that seeing us talk about the traumas that are currently being inflicted on us by you then that is firmly on you and not us
and im just staggered at how multiple people (this is not a subchost of any one single fucking person here and if you take this personally that's direly offensive) will admit to a long term pattern of them concealing their true feelings about us, and then try and turn it around so that our upset about being lied to by a close friend is an indication that we are a dangerous and manipulative and coercive person, and then try and act like their actions and their society is perfect and all of our problems are caused by how we aren't centering white people's feelings about their trauma, and that's a pathology that needs action from me