alex tax1a

white people love to preach the virtues of disposability culture and passive avoidance in making their lives easier, and refuse to admit that this is disrespectful in that it makes the lives of marginalized people orders of magnitude harder by offloading a whole bunch of work onto people who do not have those privileges

Your boyfriend? We uh, we debunked him? Yeah he was like, just a hoax? Sort of an urban legend? There's no evidence you ever had a boyfriend sorry

and then we went to our usual furry cons, where we'd taken him and introduced him around a bunch of people over the many years we were together

not a single one of them remembered him: "you had a boyfriend? who was he?" and we're like "... that guy we used to bring around here?"

them: "him? I always thought he was just some unmemorable generic rando"

haha well,,,

also: he was literally a David Livingstone, descendent of the colonizer. i have no idea why we thought this relationship would at all ever work out

we carry generations worth of traumas perpetrated against our ancestors and ourselves and we don't center white fragility in our processing of that, and if yours is so activated that seeing us talk about the traumas that are currently being inflicted on us by you then that is firmly on you and not us

and im just staggered at how multiple people (this is not a subchost of any one single fucking person here and if you take this personally that's direly offensive) will admit to a long term pattern of them concealing their true feelings about us, and then try and turn it around so that our upset about being lied to by a close friend is an indication that we are a dangerous and manipulative and coercive person, and then try and act like their actions and their society is perfect and all of our problems are caused by how we aren't centering white people's feelings about their trauma, and that's a pathology that needs action from me