having to carefully explain to white people that the much-bandied-about 'hostility' they're picking up from us is the same kind of 'hostility' an abused animal displays, not sure we're getting the point across
difficult to convey this when the standing preconception of us includes raging and baseless hostility with no end to it, because anything we have to say gets read as violent, and this entire goddamn society treats us as a potential danger
we give as much grace as we possibly can, but it is never sufficient because the mere presence of our anger gets us marked as intractable and our self defense against a white supremacist society is considered unacceptably harmful
once again: white supremacy consists in part of a hierarchy of who is allowed to inflict discomfort on the Other, and our various marginalizations mean that, to white people, we aren't allowed to make anyone uncomfortable at all, we can only be discomforted, and any discomfort coming from us is grounds for expulsion
"have you considered not being mad" yeah i have but as it turns out, ignoring the problems does not make them go away, the mere passage of time does not undo harm done to us, and we are expected to understand this for other people and act accordingly, but the same considerations are not reciprocated!
