i do have a list of people i'd never forgive no matter what, but it is surprisingly short.
it's only my parents (abusive childhood is fun), the group of three that tried really badly to coordinate a harassment campaign to get me killed (the ones The Abuser's Guide is kinda about), and my stalker ex.
anyone outside of that? it's not gonna be easy if you've hurt me but if you really wanted to try to work on yourself it would certainly be possible to get into "forgiven" territory. it's only those six who toyed with my life directly multiple times that get the dishonor of "never again".
i don't even want them hurt or dying or anything! i want them to learn to be better people, i just want them to learn that far away from me.
this is what restorative justice means i think. i don't dream of revenge, i dream of those who hurt me reckoning with what they did and learning to be better from it.

