ayase

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I dont know how to talk to my friends sometimes because the topic will be something that makes me uncomfortable, but really ONLY me. Like buying the new Blizzard game or spending money in a gacha game. They're able to acknowledge that these companies and types of games are horrid, rent-seeking and exploitative but then also immediately talk about how they are participating in that and even get defensive about it. They just HAD to buy the kitsune skin, you know?

And that's the issue. I get uncomfortable and annoyed by this. Everyone else is off playing these games together, having a good time and I'm feeling like I'm going crazy because I really don't want to participate.

Am I just being too harsh?? Should I learn to accept that this is how people do things and that it's not my business how they spend their money?


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in reply to @ayase's post:

i have a lot of trouble with this. i think it's easy for people to shrug and say "no ethical consumption under capitalism" and just thoughtlessly consume things but i think that saying ought to make one more thoughful of one's obsession with consumption, not less... THAT the consumption is not materially effective (or ineffective) at changing the producer's practices is taken for granted, but why within ourselves are we so determined to consume even knowing this? pushing a button that executes a prisoner to give us a cookie, and consoling ourselves with the knowledge that the prisoner would have been executed anyway, even if that's true we are not ever asking why we are so obsessed with the cookie

Right? I just don't know how to bring this up in a healthy or respectful way because in the end they're really just bonding over it and I'm a little grumpy because I'm excluding myself on purpose. How do you even begin to reconcile that?

Unfortunately, it really depends on what hill people are willing to stake their flag on. And whether you feel the need to make their decisions the point that you cannot tolerate. (I am on your side of the Blizzard/Gacha/various other terrible spending choices) And whether you cease contact over it.

There is no easy choice on your end, and either you compromise for the other elements of that friendship/relationship, or you don't. There are some that I can't tolerate (wizard game) and some I can let slide(Fortnite/Gacha). It's not easy, but you have to draw your lines somewhere and some get more leniency than others

Tbh I do want to just not care because I think it really negatively affects my relationships that I'm so uptight about it. I just don't know how to turn it off when it means so much to me