(fallen london stamps by in-system relationships ask game/questionnaire, questions 11 and 12
Do any members share a partner outside the system?
Lmao, it's the other way around! My two outerworld partners are from the same system. I love them both very very dearly and I'm so glad that I get to know and learn each of them as themselves.
If someone wants to date someone outside the system, does the rest of the system have to approve?
We have agreed that any prospective partner of ours needs to understand that we're a bunch of different people in one head. And when we say understand, they don't just need to get it, but get it. They need to not be weirded out by it; they need to understand that everyone here has a right to our life.
In the best case scenario, they wouldn't just understand it, but embrace it. Like, they'd respectfully initiate conversations about the system and our relationship boundaries. They'd be interested in getting to know other headmates. We'd talk about inner going-ons like we'd talk about any other social thing.
In practice, the approval process is more like... "does anyone have any objections? any weird vibes? concerns? no? cool." If they aren't someone who can understand and embrace plurality to begin with, they're not someone we were interested in dating in the first place.