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slightly related to the last post - introversion vs extroversion is also kind of a dichotomy, but man like:

  • my way of coping with depression and existential Unhappiness is to hop over to Dynamis and do "community service" for strangers (queue adventurer in need for roulettes, or alternate healer/tank until I get the "we only needed one more" instant pop)
  • likewise if I get Obnoxious People in a roulette my response is to go run another as a palate cleanser
  • I constantly want to meet new people! (in contexts that I'm comfortable with but. please invite me to your EX farm parties or leveling sessions) I am constantly hopping into new Discords/webbed sites in hopes of finding new cool people. hell, if a random person at the store talks to me out of the blue, as long as they and the conversation were cool, I walk away feeling pumped up!
  • likewise I am WAY more comfortable in group settings than extended 1:1, unless you're someone super close to me.
  • I have described myself as "feeding constantly off of the Excitement and Comradery of a good group" and said things like "people are all delightful fruit trees and I am running through the orchard with wild glee, cramming fruit in my face left and right"
  • I struggle to play any kind of non-multiplayer game these days because what's the poooiiiiiint. (or I try to find a way to get people involved, like streaming)
  • me, looking upon the social enshittification of the Internet: "is this how hummingbirds feel as they watch their food sources disappear"

overall, when I'm feeling down and need a boost, I sure beeline for Where The (Cool) People Are! it certainly feels like I have to jump through fewer hoops to call myself an extrovert with chronic health and fatigue issues as opposed to a really, really, really, REALLY social introvert.

(and it definitely explains why all of my ""fellow introvert"" friends found it hard to keep up with me, or were baffled by how readily I threw myself into New Socials...)


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in reply to @bazelgeuse-apologist's post:

Hrm, I feel like there's something I'm missing here in this post... I've always understood the definitions of introvert/extrovert as hinging on whether alone time (introvert) or people time (extrovert) "reacharges your batteries" (in general/as a trend– introverts still need some people time and extroverts still need some alone time!) Now, I will allow that the internet semantic drift has a lot of people use the words like they're just Shy 2/Outgoing 2, but if you'll forgive me my Words Mean Things for a moment, they're completely different concepts. Someone can be shy and feel nourished by friend time. Someone can be super personable and charismatic and want to spend their Fridays at home in private to recharge.

On the face of it, all of your descriptions sound 100% extroverted to me, nearly textbookly so. So I'm trying to puzzle out where you're getting any "introvert" from...? What did I miss :o

OH YEAH, the missing context is that I looked at "gets tired after interacting with people for a while; loses energy from interactions" and was like "yup, that sure is a thing that happens to me. maybe I'm a weird introvert"

buuut I hadn't yet made the distinction between losing energy due to chronic illness and losing energy because socials are draining, nor had I made the connection of "maybe interactions are draining because I'm neurospicy and haven't learned how to social with my brain yet", if that makes sense?

This is perfectly clarifying context, thank you!

And yeah also that makes perfect sense to me. Even on a good day the introvert/extrovert distinction sure is gunning for the title of oversimplification; if you toss in extenuating circumstances/factors, who knows if it'll even make the Top 10 list of Why I Am Tired factors!