Adult - Plants-liking queer menace - Front-desk worker of a plural system - Unapologetic low-effort poster
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(fallen london stamps by @vagorsol)
or maybe if you're trans and queer, it won't surprise you at all to know that this kind of stuff exists within yet another fringe community, lmao.
I regularly nod at your plural-meta posts and think "Phosphor's done it again, another fine post that would barely need a find-and-replace to work as a queer-meta post" lmao. SIGH. Humans are like this, unfortunately....
I have nothing else useful to add, just, as someone who doesn't know shit about shit I am flashing you a thumbs up. Your posts are good and I think your instincts are pretty on the money– it's just not always easy when the subject is Complicated and Nuanced!
Humans are so humans so much forever
I think what I'll do is, instead of writing a whole separate primer on exclusionist nonsense, I'll just do like... a few paragraphs at the end of the bigger "how do I know if I'm plural" primer that basically just go "fyi, there's people in the community who think you Need Specific Trauma to be Valid and that certain experiences are Fake. they are not great company for selves-discovery, even if you currently fit into their boxes, because you will feel pressured to continue fitting into their boxes instead of exploring yourself nonjudgementally. here is a writeup on the plural community's history if you want to read more about how this bullshit came to be! here's another essay about why this kind of thing exists and why it sucks for everyone, even the people doing the excluding. enjoy!"
A mention as a heads-up, and some links if people really wanna read more, but that's it - because it really doesn't deserve more than that in a primer for newbies.
That seems like a pretty reasonable balance to me– oh that history link is PLATINUM all on its own, thank you for replying with it! If you need me I will be reading that.
It has citations and it has
Gee, thank goodness everyone learns their lesson and this never happens again!
[EDIT] then I got to the "anonymous public complaints forum" and HUMANS ARE SO HUMANS SO MUCH FOREVER