Crossposting a thing we posted in Discord:
When it comes to sharing front/usage of our body in an equitable manner, we've found that trying to adhere to like... Hard Rules like "everyone should get at least one day to themselves" "everyone should front an equal amount of time" and so on was just really stressful and didn't work out for us.
We operate now under the premise that if someone wants fronting time, they can ask for it, and if we come across something neat that we know a specific person would like, we nudge them and ask if they're interested.
Also, we've noticed that there's a few different flavors of "no" in response to "would you like to front for [thing]"
- "nah, not that interested" - we take them at their word
- "nah, it's too much effort" - we ask if there's any way we can make it easier
- "well... I don't want to take time away from anyone else/be a bother/etc" - we reassure them that they aren't a bother. if they still say no we'll let them know the door is always open, but we don't push them. (usually... I have absolutely just kicked Lark into front before. it's a pre-existing agreement we have.)
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