(fallen london stamps by a conversation about community moderation has got me thinking about how fundamentally, in like every area of life, we lack references for resolving conflicts in communities that don't involve having An Authority make a decision about what to do
if we get bullied by another kid in school, we're told to take it to the teachers. if someone starts shit irl, we're told to call the cops. if someone starts shit on the internet, whether that's on big social media or a small Discord server, we're told to take it to a moderator.
with all of this, it's no wonder that people end up resorting to antipatterns like callouts and DNIs and the like. the only tool we're given is "tell the authorities," and when the authorities don't do anything, we don't know what to do. (in some situations we can block the person, too, but that isn't possible for every platform or interaction)
I don't know where I'm going with this tbh, just another orb to roll 'round and around
