(fallen london stamps by I feel like there's a massive disconnect between us and the younger members of the plural community because this is an exchange that happens periodically in most plural spaces we find:
Someone: "Hey we have [something that is causing them distress]... is there a term for systems who have [the something that is causing them distress]?"
Me, inwardly, clutching my head: "There are questions that you could be asking that would be more immediately helpful to you! These things are actionable and improvable! They don't need to be made into An Identity!"
(To be clear, the "something that is causing distress" is like. being unable to communicate internally, or having lots of tiring switches. Things that can be worked on!)
My understanding is that asking for labels and terms is their way of finding validation that others have experienced this - that they're not alone. And I understand the desire for that! But I still feel like it's more effective to ask "we are experiencing [distressing thing], has anyone else experienced this and what did you do that helped?" Terms and labels are useful in that they can help lead you to resources - but it feels like the discussion always stops at finding terms rather than where those terms can lead.
Maybe I'm just too old for this. 
