idk, one of my Fatal Flaws is that I hate seeing people stuck. I see them and the solution seems so obvious and I want to drag them out of their ruts. I want to Fix them. and that's not a great way of thinking about people, for them or for me.
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in reply to @bazelgeuse-apologist's post:
i have the same problem >_< haven't found a fix yet, i just try to be patient.
yeah, i've been trying to break myself of my habit of wanting to Fix Things by reminding myself of all the ways my life probably looks like it would be easy to fix if I Would Just...and all the reasons why I have not Just... And I try to remind myself that other people probably have equally valid reasons why they haven't done whatever would Fix things. They might not be good reasons, but, yanno, valid reasons. And maybe some of those reasons are deep down inside reasons that neither of us can see that are causing them to get stuck and until they can see and deal with that, they'll keep getting stuck. I can't force a Fix on them for their own good. All I can do is figure out what boundaries I need to set with myself to avoid getting dragged into frustration with other people's problems. (Though I admit, sometimes the lure of other people's problems is strong when I am most frustrated with my own problems. Why! This other person's problem looks so Easy from outside! Not like my own problems! I'll just swoop in and fix that in a jiff! Easy dopamine and one less frustration nagging at my brain! But it doesn't really work like that, lmao)