(fallen london stamps by wish there was more conversation in plural spaces about living as plural :c a lot of conversation seems to revolve around What Kind Of System/Headmate Am I (And What Are The Right Labels For Me To Use) and as someones who've done our time in the navelgazing mines (we've been here ten! years!) our eyes just kind of glaze over whenever someone starts bringing up Terms
like in our experience at least, all of those little differences that the terms hairsplit over... most just don't matter that much in daily life, and for the ones that do, they're better expressed in everyday language than in niche microlabels. where is the talk about like, how to overcome anxiety about talking to the system's friends as someone who doesn't come out much? figuring out who you are in the outer world when you're effectively less than a ghost to it? making friends, finding hobbies, creating your own reason for existing once you've outgrown the circumstances that created you?
there's so much discussion about being, but not about living, y'know?
I have a conspiracy theory that this fixation on Labels and Categories comes from the plural community (at least in the parts of the Internet that I encounter it) being dominated by younger folks, who in addition to being at a transitional period of their lives, are denied autonomy and experience - and thus they turn to labels/increasing niche categorization of identity, because they don't have the opportunity to live anything else
I may be projecting our own experiences though
