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in reply to @bck356's post:

i'm kinda in the beginning stages of this ( with less social anxiety i suppose so i don't know how relatable or helpful i can be ) so i don't know man. also sorry cause i don't know if you're wanting to just vent or something. it's totally valid if that's what you're wanting. just ignore the rest of this comment.

instead of communities, i did join in group to do sound (eg. church, local halls / meetings / other clubs ) . it's like i'm a part of a community but i have a role that keeps me away from others and any awkwardness is sometimes accounted for by me being busy or at the other end of the room. it's a pretty niche set up but it kinda works.

i'm also trying this new thing of being running something, eg a club. i'm not the front person but i'm involved enough that things are just put up to they're stressed, or thinking about other things.

those aren't very helpful tips but like you said you feel comfortable at work so having a role might help. as well as disperse situations when you misread a room. i've found that the most important thing to have in life is excuses.

No, you're fine to comment, I would have disabled replying if I didn't want interaction.

But yeah. Having a role. That's a good thing to center on. I don't know what it actually means right now, but it's a good starting point to explore from for why that might be the successful point I can build from. Thanks for pointing that out.