i'm not really sure what to think when someone's self-identity would require me to accept metaphysical claims about the existence of things like souls. i don't want to be an asshole but i don't know how to respond if someone claims an identity that their physical body doesn't have, especially if it's a marginalized identity. i want to respect people but i also don't want to let whites people get away with saying they're transracial or whatever in an oli london type way