The preponderance of terms like "girldad" and "boymom" among cis people offers a clue into parental transphobia: they literally see their children's gender a part of their identity. "Well actually you're the one forcing me to take on an identity I don't want" is a DARVO, but it's a darvo supported by normative ideas of how parenthood should function.
we as a society need less boymoms and more boywives
WAIT
do cis ppl use "girldad" and "boymom" to mean they are a (cis male) dad of a girl, or a (cis female) mom of a boy ????????????
THATS SO CONFUSING ESPECIALLY when i see those terms and im like "oh DUH its when ur a mom who's a boy, or a dad who's a girl"
Cis people will take the sexiest labels and use them in the unsexiest ways I swear to god
tangentially this makes me think of rubbermaid, a word that's used for Products™ and not a kink thing as it rightfully should be
when i read somewhere that a lot of normie cis people view their children as property and not people it felt like my third eye was opening and not in a good way
