If cohost is to be the last breath of social media as we know it, let the best thing about it be the lesson for any future websites.
You always had control over your notifications
You always had control over what you see in your feed
You always had control over whether to react or not (because you weren't constantly incentivized by numbers going up)
Yes, the site culture that emerged was natural, but it's extremely important to remember that a new user signing on cohost finds their notifications off by default, no default accounts until they go looking for tags or people or friends to follow, and no numbers beyond X comments on each post; and it is small and not prominent, fulfilling its purpose of information instead of being a score counter.
The culture we built here was guided by the system. Cohost is built with the intention to be respectful of your choices
Was it perfect in every way? No, but there's something to be said about intent in design. This more than anything is what the modern internet abuses the most. All major social media platforms exploit and abuse engagement, creating people who simply Can't Stop Posting and forming parasocial relationships and addictions.
Those are the people who quote tweet, those are the reply guys, those are the people who just can't stop talking; and that's the sort of people that says insane bullshit like "Your silence speaks volumes." Refusing to engage is anathema when you're an addict; so naturally, how can anything happen in good faith? How can you post anything BUT engagement bait, BUT the angriest takes, BUT the shit that polarizes people the most, in pursuit of the almighty engagement?
Have I ever felt addicted to cohost? Yes, but it was natural and entirely my own fault. I got addicted to checking this webbed site out because it is good-old-fashioned good and because I liked it that much, and I suspect this is also the case for many if not most users.
It wasn't built to clamp down on my lizard brain; only to put a little eggbug in my mind, and so it did.