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FuneralPasta
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Sorry to add and ask but there's a lot of muddy information on this current situation. As far as I'm aware, there was a trans masc exclusive subreddit that was invaded by terfs. They weren't wanted there, but they decided to try to radicalize them because they figured the trans masc were AFAB and could "come to their senses", and that trans mascs don't feel safe in general communities making them easier targets. In the first post (and I might be missing context like them being a known transphobe or something, and I know I'm missing the context of pronouns so I'm sorry if I misgender them) it just seems like they're upset that they're being lumped in with TERFs and don't want them around, and realize that part of the problem is a lack of safety in some sense? Like, the stuff trans mascs are facing probably isn't as bad as trans fems and nonbinary people, but it feels like this isn't the best post for your point? Like, I think there's some kind of circular logic of "we don't like trans mascs!" "Why?" "Some of them associate with TERFs!" "Why do they do that?" "Because we have made them feel unsafe because we don't like them!" This just seems like a person who is getting fucked over for the actions of other people in their community, so I dont see why its such a big deal. Sorry if I'm misunderstanding something here.

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this entire thread is dogshit

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Stuff like this is literally why we all fucking left tumblr

is essentially doing the same thing to trans men that TERFS are trying to make them do to trans women
Can you even fucking hear yourself? "If you call out trans men for transmisogyny then they're gonna have to side with the TERFs :/" so are you against TERFs or not? It costs zero dollars to not be shitty to trans women, and wouldn't you know it, people don't usually associate you with TERFs if you aren't blatantly harassing trans women!

The "these people are at best extremely useful idiots and at worst active bigots who want us dead" was specifically referring to a post that was full mask-off transmisogyny and literally claiming that trans women are trying to subjugate afab people under patriarchy (which is, believe it or not, TERF ideology!). Ditch the shitty reading comprehension or go back to Tumblr.

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beokirby
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him rephrasing the actual words and context of the post he's complaining about from "terfs explicitly recognize (correctly) that spaces talking about 'transandrophobia' are easy for them to use to spread transmisogyny, consider why your ideas and the culture of these spaces leads to this" as "ask yourself why terfs feel safe trying to prey on your community" is just so incredibly disingenuous

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Space-G
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... What? I'm confused, I don't know a trans man (any other trans person tbh other than Blaire White) that willingly associates with terfs, and this is the first time I hear about them not feeling safe in queer spaces... I am not saying this person is right, but I am confused..?

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sperm-whale-railgun
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Idk who "these people" could be other than terfs. If you're talking about transmascs in general then yes, that's a pretty sweeping generalization. It's unclear who exactly you mean. The issue you're talking is of course true and relevant, transmisogyny can come from anyone, and it deserves the space to be talked about and called out and not be shut down for being "divisive." And if the reason these trans masc people are feeling unsafe is because they're uncomfortable being confronted with their own transmisogyny then that's of course utterly Deserved. But idk. There's context im surely lacking that is not explained here, which is frustrating. Im sure you're just over this whole thing but it frustrates me that people have added what seem like good-faith questions/responses just for you to respond condescendingly. Idk, maybe they deserve it, but if they do i dont see why that is in this post. Context would be helpful, im not as deep in the trans internet as many of y'all.

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Tetnus
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In my opinion the first one DOESN’T deserve it, at ALL, and it’s extremely disingenuous to lump them in with the second one. romantorchdick was honestly taken out of context because he was actually frustrated with being LUMPED IN with terfs for literally no reason in the first place, that was literally the point (I read his tumblr blog! https://www.tumblr.com/romantorchdick/744665158743425024/ask-yourself-why-terfs-feel-comfortable-trying-to). Obv weren’t his best words but we are human. Forbid a trans man says anything semi-inflammatory because they are frustrated at how they’re being treated so now they are somehow Against All Transfems (he isn’t) and is a TERF (he isn’t).

As for the SECOND one, they’re a fucking vulture and an actual TERF and looking at the notes on ANY of their posts makes that exceedingly fucking obvious (as in: people are calling them out).

The lack of context on all this seriously pisses me the fuck off

Edit: the missing context is the use of transandrophobia by the first person and the second person. The first person is by no means a terf but apparently the usage of transandrophobia is inherently meant to dismiss transfem experiences and is apparently not a term used in parallel with ones specifically meant for transfem experiences.

If op had just said that I feel like this whole thing would of been avoided, but whatever.

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Tetnus
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No op is just being incredibly abrasive instead of clarifying it was about transmen who are users/subscribers of the transandrophobia concept/tag (/other relate ones). Which might of been apparent to you and her but was definitely not apparent to me, I didn’t even know it existed and I’m a trans man, and it probably wasn’t apparent to the people questioning this post. Like a group of transmen who are bent on dismissing transfem experiences being lumped in with terfs is a lot different than ALL transmen being lumped in with terfs for merely fucking existing online?? And I only Know now because someone was willing to actually explain instead of telling me to fuck off for the crime of not immediately understanding all relevant background knowledge about currently used terms and only being able to work with what I was given.

Also the person you are referring to is non-binary, great job.

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Tetnus
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I'll admit your wording semi-vexes me, so apologies if I put words in your mouth, but the only "card" I'm playing is 'I didn't know this concept existed, and I honestly don't know how I or others are expected to know it did exist without being told, which we weren't. So this is a kinda unfair judgment on someone'. Sorry I wasn't so nice about it, can't change that.

Also if I had NOT pushed and said all what I said, I STILL wouldn't even know what the hell this was all about, I CONSIDERED just blocking everyone here without saying anything at all, cause the way the initial convo had been looking (TO ME) I straight thought she meant every transman just on tumblr.

But no I really wanted to know what was going on (once again thank you to the person who explained it), sorry for "not all men"-ing up this post for that, I'll just live in ignorance next time, I'm sure the actual terfs would love that. (for the sake of clarity, the last statement is complete sarcasm, no matter how ticked off I get I'll always hate transphobes more. I know I know, the bare minimum I can do.)

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switchaxe
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hi rita im leaving this comment not to bother you but to add some much needed context to this comments section and post thread for anyone else who happens to look at it

the op of the terf tumblr post that is used to demonstrate transmascs associating with terfs is MASSIVELY unpopular and NOT taken seriously whatsoever. that post in particular has a comments section and reblogs tab FULL of people telling op that she is insane and wrong, and multiple people asserting that trans women and trans men are each other’s best allies. this person in particular is also someone who has been posting terf shit to LGBTQ+ reddit threads even though it is VERY MUCH unwanted there. there are very few people on tumblr that actually even vaguely agree with what that terf has to say — she’s mostly just throwing around the terms “afab” and “amab” around unnecessarily and attempting to put words in the mouths of transmasc people when few to none of them actually agree with her

i could be wrong, but i at least scrolled through the op’s disgusting blog and did all the research that I could.

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lola-rosa
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This whole thing has made me realize that the one shitty ex I had, who found out he was a trans guy at the same time I found out I'm trans fem did a shitty transmisoginy to me at the end after he got really into kiwifarms c: that makes sense

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