Cam

okay I have had two cocktails and an idea
Full disclosure: This has NOT been workshopped in any way shape or form
Idea:
PAAW = perceived as a woman
PAAM = perceived as a man
I.e. "People who are PAAW may experience X kind of sexism."
"Fuck I was PAAWed today and now I need to go disassociate in front of video games"

I like this because it locates the perceiving with the person doing the perceiving and doesn't blame it on the object (as opposed to like "presenting as a woman" etc type language.) And also it acknowledges that like........ how someone might be perceived can change depending on who is doing the perceiving, etc.

Plus PAAM is just "Pam" which I find delightful

Plus plus some people who use “DMAB” “DFAB” etc. when they really just mean how people are treated in daily life might like PAAW or PAAM better and maybe we can one day be free of DFAB/DMAB 😎

Here’s a true story: back in my bisexual era*, particularly in high school, I had a crush on this bisexual** in one of my classes, and several years later I saw him on a dating app***, and he basically said the above, like “I’m gay, women, I will not be your gay best friend, stop messaging me”

*most of my life until now, when I came out as a dirty heterosexual^
**his bisexual era also did not last
***I did not message him on this app lol
^I would like it to be noted that he was similar to my type now, which is pretty with long hair and attracted to men, lol

This is the person who Virginia Woolf wrote the novel “Orlando” about

(Violet was Vita’s then-girlfriend, this is from the book “Portrait of a Marriage”)

Previously on Cameron liveblogs reading this book: Vita describes what strike me as proto-polyamorous feelings related to bisexuality, and feeling incapable of “fidelity”:
https://cohost.org/cameronvansant/post/4417229-exciting-update-the

Daniel Lavery successfully plumbs the depths of Alfred Douglas’ late life for some hilarious material which he then reads for filth.

Real quote:

“As I have been invited to defend myself against the accusations brought against me in this book I feel it would be impossible for me to decline that invitation and to refuse to shoulder the burden of all the unpleasantness it implies.”

Lavery’s paraphrase:

I have to do this. I am seventy years old and it is impossible for me to stop litigating the 1890s. We are in the middle of World War II but nothing matters more than American biographies about my old boyfriend. I’m not doing this because I want to. I’ve never wanted to do anything. All I ever wanted to do was live in quiet retirement in this cave and whittle figures of the saints. You’re making me do this! I hope you’re happy!