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venusasaboy
@venusasaboy

i'm so done with the sex/gender model of transness implying that all trans people were basically meant to be cis, if it wasn't for "being born in the wrong body". no shame to any trans people who feel this is their personal experience with transness, it just shouldn't be the default every trans person is assumed to operate under, and thats the fault of cis people imho.

i realized earlier this year if i was born another sex, i'd still choose hormones. i'd still be GNC. i still would be something that can't quite neatly fit into male or female. i think i'm just meant to be trans. and it makes me think a lot about how the pursuit of cisness is the end goal we are sold as trans people. because cisness is seen as wholeness, and correctness. cis people want us to correlate gender to trait in specific ways set out for us. and this is damaging and dysphoria fueling for trans people, or even damaging for trans people who don't experience dysphoria, because the pressure is always on "passing" and achieving a body that is as close to a mythical stereotype of Cisness as possible, regardless of your personal needs/wants. you are not allowed to just Be, and not allowed to pick and choose what serves you personally.

the relationship of sex and gender is much more complicated than we give credit to, i think this can especially be seen in people who feel their assigned gender correlates but their body/sexual traits don't, such as GNC cis people who pursue hormone treatment or even surgery. none of this has to be at odds and picking and choosing outside of the diagram of sex:gender should be a basic freedom.


critters-system
@critters-system

All the other responses we've seen here have been so incredibly yes, but there's one thing that has really highlighted our agreement of this: Our plurality.

We're all sorts of genders in here, from multiple "Any pronouns cool" nerds to "She/Her pretty binary (But I do enjoy having that girldick)" to "He/Him agender", but what we all have in common is that none of us are cis. Unless you count "Individual formed from a transfem body and brain identifying as transfem" as cis, which is a debate we are not quite ready to think about ourselves. And between the several butch-leaning individuals here and the masc ones, we know what would happen if we were to suddenly find ourselves in an 'afab' body: We'd take the first chance we could to see if our Testosterone allergy had improved.

We get to be trans and GNC and everything in so many different ways, and it is pure joy. We have no interest in being cis. At this point we don't even think we could be cis. To imagine that we could confine all of us into one presentation like that is at best a bad joke. Gender should be, and in our opinion needs to be a basic freedom.


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