"is it okay for your friends to have weird sex fantasies about you"
do we need to hash out the "fictions are simply fucking not interchangeable with the realities they depict and therefore even the most awful real things can be depicted in fictions without any real harms at all necessarily resulting" talk again
or: have, yes. Ever making it my business, however — taking place, as it would, in reality — had fucking better be handled with sensitivity and circumspection and a willingness to concede they should possibly Just Not