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caffeinatedOtter
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"is it okay for your friends to have weird sex fantasies about you"

do we need to hash out the "fictions are simply fucking not interchangeable with the realities they depict and therefore even the most awful real things can be depicted in fictions without any real harms at all necessarily resulting" talk again

or: have, yes. Ever making it my business, however — taking place, as it would, in reality — had fucking better be handled with sensitivity and circumspection and a willingness to concede they should possibly Just Not


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in reply to @caffeinatedOtter's post:

Honestly? The question as framed annoyed me, because it strikes me as disingenuous. Sex fantasies, regardless of "weirdness", are a type of fiction; they do not have any intrinsic effect on real life. Without any effect on real life, trying to say that people can't have them is definitionally thought policing.

Telling your friends you have self-described "weird" sex fantasies about them is, however, an irl behaviour, and the framing seems suspiciously like it might be fishing for "of course you're allowed to think things!" answers (which everyone is) to an question that's actually, truthfully about doing something irl that's maybe not ideal for other people.

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