it is so much better than both ma'am and sir and it is gender neutral and it just goes fucking hard
i know a lot of other queer ppl hate on the way in which BG3 or equivalent media just kind of has gay people and queerness exist in the world without commenting on it, like not making transness or whatever a big deal. as this argument goes, to have it just be in the background, invisible, is in some way not doing it justice or not commenting on it in the real world or not going into the 'queer experience' as if we are defined by suffering and oppression. As loud as I can say it, FUCK THAT.
I love the world that BG3 and its ilk represent, where there is a noble wedding between two men or two women or two enbies and it's just normal, where there's a trans character who everyone, even the fucking evil cultists respect as their gender and take in stride, where some random fucking deep gnome or whatnot is gay or lesbian, where there are oh so many gay and queer people, good and bad, that it ceases to be noteworthy. Where there's a corrupt guard who talks to her wife about how pretty she is, where there's a joke about a devil who only has sex with a succubus who mimics himself because of how vain he is WITHOUT IT BEING A GAY JOKE, where a vampire seduces people of the same gender without a second thought, where a gal asks you to tell her girlfriend she's dead in lieu of breaking up (wow what a bitch tbh, that's what i thought when playing it), where even the evil memory-wipe goddess who abuses a girl her whole life is supportive of a trans woman (not in some show-offy way, not in a 'oh im going out of my way' type deal, but just - as part of existence, just as one would support a sick woman or a person with a lisp or whatever), where the son of the grand duke can just fuckin date men and that's okay, where even the most comically evil man is, canon, bisexual (and possible trans? there's some hints that gortash is), and where NONE OF THAT IS NOTEWORTHY! WHERE THESE THINGS JUST EXIST! Because that's HOW IT FUCKING SHOULD BE! History shouldn't have been some dodging game where OH THEY WERE ROOMATES or CLOSE FRIENDS or LIFELONG BACHELOR or SOME FUCKING SHIT!
Sure, you can talk a lot about how class and gender and economics and religion intersect or whatever, but honestly? I like that it's not commented on. And I like that the world fucking stinks too, just that the evil people and the good people and the people in-between are gay or trans or whatever. It just feels so fucking nice, so fucking nice to have these fantasies and historical dramas that are twisted and repeated (as they always are in fantasy stories - every story of nobility is a repeat of some shit that happened in Britain or France or some random duchy that is now part of Germany or whatever) with everything out in the open. Things suck, but it's not because we, queer people, are not accepted. We are! AND WE'RE NO WORSE OR BETTER THAN EVERYONE ELSE! I love that so so so so much, that we aren't disney villains nor super-heroic good guys, that we're just part of it all. It legitimately means so much to me, probably an unhealthy amount, that in my game my party can walk down the streets of the lower city and see two gals walking hand in hand, or see a picnic with a gay couple, or whatever, and it's all just a side story. random NPCs. People that don't matter, that are BACKGROUND. It's everyone and everything, everywhere, every class, every personality, every level of 'goodness' or 'kindness', every level of complexity. They exist just like we have always existed, and yet it's just ... nothing. It's normal, not even worth mentioning.
Gods, I love it so much. I wish this was the real world, where that one Roman emperor who everyone hates on who was a trans woman would just be known as a trans woman, still incompetent, but a trans woman, where heroes like Turing would be respected and known and not murdered for who they were.
I dunno, it's just wonderful.
