eramdam

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Every time I hear some story about teenagers being like "20 is too old to transition" I'm so weirded out. Back when I transitioned, it was considered highly unusual to be able to transition if you were younger than 40. I was very lucky to be in a position to do it younger, but it really feels like a lot of people don't have that much context on how new it is for many people to have it be a practical option for them at a younger age.


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in reply to @dog's post:

you know i agree wholeheartedly and it does weird me out hearing teens be this way. But also I can remember hearing essentially the same things, even from people who transitioned older than me, when i was first questioning/coming out as well (and this is like 15~20 years ago). it just feels like the goalposts are shifting younger and younger...

I wanna chalk it up to it being the usual "teenagers' sense of time is very nearsighted," like how they can often think it's too late to do anything different by 25 and think it's weird to have hobbies past 30

I fr thought that 16 was “too late” because of all the stuff I read on line it’s just wild in retrospect— all it made me feel was a keen sense of how unsafe my environment was

Yes this!
And, I had this very no-problems experience doing a very-not-passing social transition starting around 2015, and there's this feeling like I should have done that decades ago, but, really, if I'd shown up to work wearing a dress in 1997 it really really really probably would not have gone as totally fine as it did in 2017...