Gonna third this. I haven’t had it happen here yet but it has happened elsewhere. I don’t mind light flirtation with strangers, that’s fine and fun. But coming in strong or aggressive, and just assuming that because we belong to the same category of trans/ poly/ queer/ autistic/ author/ etc means I’m down for anyone is basically a sure fire way to make sure I’m gonna block you. Especially with the things I’m into: if you can’t respect basic boundaries during flirtation, I can’t possibly trust you enough for anything more intimate.
Also just because I’m trans sure as shit doesn’t mean I’m a sub, and just because I’m a domme doesn’t mean I’m your domme.