I don't know who needs to hear this, but the only "right" way to be trans is the way that makes you happy.
I spent so long trying to be trans the way it was presented to me. I tried wearing skirts and making them spin and did the thigh high socks and all of it hoping it would make me feel good. It was only when I stopped trying to force myself into that and started dressing more butch and wearing tank tops I felt better - but that made me wonder if I was "really" trans.
Then I started to combine makeup into the overall butch look and that felt really good so I thought that made me trans but then I started to feel dysphoric on days I didn't wear it so I was sad half the time. Then I realized that was just because I'd tied my gender to makeup instead of who I was and that made me sad.
Then I realized the dysphoria came from the fact that I felt I was doing it "wrong" and only now, after a long journey, do I feel like I'm comfortable as a trans person no matter what I'm wearing or doing because end of the day I am who I am regardless of how I look.