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alyaza
@alyaza
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Here’s the thing:

Walkable cities do need to be built to accommodate those that struggle with walking/traveling for whatever reason. This includes anxiety and people who are physically unable to carry groceries long distances.

And they can be.

This take is wild however, because walkable cities do not mean “everyone must walk.” It means “walking is as viable an option as other transportation options.” Even if we eliminate cars completely from the equation and we want to plan these cities around those (which is not usually the plan) alternatives. Electric bikes and scooters can be rented or just bought outright. They’re cheaper than cars, more lightweight, and slower, so the risk to both driver and pedestrians is greatly diminished. But I genuinely have terrible anxiety about anything with only two wheels, so those wouldn’t work for me. Perhaps then Electric trolley systems have been around since the 1900s and provide a safe and clean public transit option. But what about someone who has my two wheel vehicle anxiety and a social fear that makes public transit not viable? Then golf carts and three wheeled vehicles exist, and for short range travel in a walkable city there is no scenario where that is going to do the same amount of good as a car but cheaper, safer, and a bit slower.

And I’m not a civil engineer. I’m not an expert in anything except writing books where dinosaurs fight dragons and people fuck human-adjacent people. Yet I was able to come up with that based on things I’ve actually already seen in real life. This isn’t some wild future tech: all of this exists and in places has been implemented.

We need to stop this reflexive “well this doesn’t work for this reason and therefore nothing can change.” As a species we are very good at being very clever. Don’t go “this doesn’t work for me because of my situation so the only option is the status quo,” instead go “my situation means this doesn’t work: how can we both get this done and make sure people like me aren’t left behind?”


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THIS SHIT??? AGAIN?? They make these $40-$150 rolling shopping carts that are nice and tall for larger purchases. It’s like a little hand trolley for packages, except it has metal wire grid sides (or is a bag, or whatever). I literally have agoraphobia but also cannot drive and the only thing stopping me from begging for money to get one of these babies is that there isn’t sufficient sidewalk between my house and any grocery store. No use having a rolling cart to help with larger grocery runs if I get it stuck in the ditch we have to walk through!

I picked one of these up on a friend's recommendation a few months ago and it's been revolutionary for groceries. I can carry so much seltzer water.

I want to be able to bulk buy ginger ale without having to get a ride from my mom (who I don’t live with) or paying for delivery (not an option with just Food Stamps). Gotta have ginger ale on hand constantly because I get nauseous for no reason very frequently.

have these people SEEN how much shit you can carry on/with a bicycle if you try at all

even without a pullbehind kiddie trailer like i use for laundry

i have an old pair of saddlebags the size of shopping totes and even with one of them permanently loaded with my daily carry of repair kit/first aid kit/sunscreen/other everyday items i can get a good chunk of groceries home without hassle

more if you get a cheap laundry basket and strap it to a rear cargo rack

so weird take, and this may just be this one, but interactions tend to be different for it in denser areas than sparser ones. there's more folx, but the interactions are shorter and simpler if they happen at all and there's less conscious effort for mask-wearing. that makes more people somehow easier to deal with at a certain point?

now that doesn't help sensory issues or phobias, but there's plenty of options short of cars to help there (earbuds / plugs, having a trusted friend, heck, even wearing a jacket makes this one feel safer), and carts, bikes, bags, etc can be really nice.