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cathoderaydude
@cathoderaydude

after two? years on cohost it still feels amazing to have this experience

  • post something that sucks
  • wonder if everyone hated it
  • realize there is no follower count i can look at
  • stop caring if anyone hated it, instantly

eramdam
@eramdam

I truly believe the lack of numbers in most places on cohost is Healing™️, I’m at the point where I wish I could obliterate numbers off every other website because it influences so much of how you view people it’s insane.
There are people behind profiles and numbers tend to dehumanize them in very pernicious ways, I feel.

Related: if you see anybody telling you X or Y is “a big account” on cohost you can safely ignore their opinion because unless they’re staff they have literally no way of knowing that lol


ByCharlotteFinn
@ByCharlotteFinn

I know that Cohost people have a reputation for evangelism but I have felt so much better since I made a home here.

I've been calling the last 18 months the Cohost Exhale


cathoderaydude
@cathoderaydude

a recurring conversation I have with friends is how all of our life experiences have conditioned us to perceive anyone expressing a positive opinion of something, let alone an overwhelmingly positive one, as someone trying to sell us something. the idea that something that is popular may actually be good, in particular, is anathema to us.

It is very difficult to let go of this specific kind of cynicism, but I came here to try to do just that, and whatever problems the website has, I do not continuously feel like every single person who posts on here is trying to sell me a product, and that includes products that just consist of an opinion they want me to have

if cohost users seem evangelical about the site, it is because simply liking something and thinking that it is good is an utterly alien experience at this point in the human condition. It makes you sound untrustworthy and fanatical because it's hard to name a time when anybody expressed an opinion around you in the last 20 years that wasn't untrustworthy and fanatical.


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in reply to @cathoderaydude's post:

there is a slick new Cohost browser add-on that consolidates many userscripts i already use but one of the features is follower count display so i've been avoiding installing it because i don't want to know and wouldn't have the strength not to peek

wait you can already see roughly how many followers you have on your followers page anyway

nice to have the extention count for me though to save me the effort of counting manually

thanks a lot i got 27 which is more than i thought and im pretty happy about that :)

Oh come on, you wouldn't even get to see hatemail comments/shares. All negative responses would be unrelated and untagged posts, probably not even mentioning you by name or user name - more likely starting with "wow, some people here..."

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in reply to @cathoderaydude's post:

I mean those kinds of things can come up naturally in real life convo, but even then I suddenly feel extremely self-conscious recommending a Specific Product because I feel like I've transformed into an actor in a commercial or a sleazy salesperson. I can't genuinely recommend brands I actually like without sounding like I've been Sponsored™.

I've actually had friends apologize to me for recommending a brand name appliance or a very well-known online service. We were speaking one-on-one, these were close friends, they were recommending the product because it legitimately did what they wanted and in most cases it was something I was looking for and it had asked for an opinion on. We're just so burned, so jaded, so absolutely demolished inside by a lifetime of being acutely aware of fucking advertising, by our own lack of immunity to propaganda, that we invent guilt where it isn't remotely deserved.

related opinion, ive never understood popular posters tbh. i see a big account on tumblr and their posts are so normal and i genuinely cant see why their mid life updates are getting 1000 notes like "oh no my doordash is late im so hungry" 1754 notes ??????? why like its not even funny or interesting

What fires together wires together. In capitalism, "somebody liking something" is always associated with "I am being pitched a product". Sexy flirting is always associated with "I am being pitched an expensive product".

(What's really fun is when a friend becomes an Amway friend)

i honestly like numbers so cohosts lack of em is kinda just a reminder than im in the minority but i always have been so im just used to it now and i can still use the website of course.

i never really care if something doesnt get likes or attention because im just resilent and do what i want to do regardless of the outcome but it can feel nice when i make a video and it does get a positive reception as its something to keep in mind for the future.