after two? years on cohost it still feels amazing to have this experience
- post something that sucks
- wonder if everyone hated it
- realize there is no follower count i can look at
- stop caring if anyone hated it, instantly
I truly believe the lack of numbers in most places on cohost is Healing™️, I’m at the point where I wish I could obliterate numbers off every other website because it influences so much of how you view people it’s insane.
There are people behind profiles and numbers tend to dehumanize them in very pernicious ways, I feel.
Related: if you see anybody telling you X or Y is “a big account” on cohost you can safely ignore their opinion because unless they’re staff they have literally no way of knowing that lol
I know that Cohost people have a reputation for evangelism but I have felt so much better since I made a home here.
I've been calling the last 18 months the Cohost Exhale
a recurring conversation I have with friends is how all of our life experiences have conditioned us to perceive anyone expressing a positive opinion of something, let alone an overwhelmingly positive one, as someone trying to sell us something. the idea that something that is popular may actually be good, in particular, is anathema to us.
It is very difficult to let go of this specific kind of cynicism, but I came here to try to do just that, and whatever problems the website has, I do not continuously feel like every single person who posts on here is trying to sell me a product, and that includes products that just consist of an opinion they want me to have
if cohost users seem evangelical about the site, it is because simply liking something and thinking that it is good is an utterly alien experience at this point in the human condition. It makes you sound untrustworthy and fanatical because it's hard to name a time when anybody expressed an opinion around you in the last 20 years that wasn't untrustworthy and fanatical.





