Its been kind of weird for me to move from a "at your own risk" traumaqueer writing, kink, and art space on Twitter to elsewhere. I got really comfy with vibes of "disengage with people you don't like", "it's okay to dislike/not want to be part of all or parts of this space", and "try not to moralize disagreements". Like, it felt there was a healthy acceptance of contradictions or fallibilities, and it made me feel more comfortable connecting to people in the space.
I definitely miss the "try not to moralize everything" bit. Refusing to moralize most conflict feels like a sick trick to mediate disputes, especially between marginalized, struggling, or otherwise deeply neurodivergent people.