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and then everyone else is like "oh shit. I guess I should include my pronouns too" and follows suit, helping normalize and encourage the behavior.

this is one of my favorite examples of a sociology lifehack: set a perfectly polite and casual example of good behavior, and anyone who wants to be in your ingroup will usually follow suit. ymmv depending on location/culture/exact interaction, but it's one of my favorite methods to employ as a disarmingly charming trans person. I've done it multiple times in group therapy, and it works like a charm every single time


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my DBT therapist likes to call this kind of thing "positive emotional manipulation." everyone who is in DBT is extremely good at emotional manipulation because it's a survival behavior we learned in response to trauma, but emotional manipulation can be used in positive and socially acceptable ways-- and knowing the difference between the two is part of dialectics and effective communication. so you better believe that every time I do it in group, he notices and gives me a sly grin



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goddamn, filling out intake paperwork for a new therapist is always so fuckin exhausting. gotta write entire essays about my whole mental health history and my relationship with my parents before I even get to find out if I like the mfer

(I am seeking a second opinion on EMDR after my first doctor said "yep one session is all you need! you're good, good luck out there")